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Life Lessons from the Rail Trail

Everything clicks along, like gliding through air. Muscles fire like pistons, breath is smooth and energizing. I’m passing vibrant green pastures filled with lambs and sheep of all sizes, and the birthing season has just passed; the little babies are only 3 weeks old. They are everywhere. Cutest little lambs!

At another moment, I can’t catch my breath. My legs just won’t go. I’m aching, my left arm is numb, my butt hurts, and there are sheep everywhere. Darn sheep! 

Happy/Sad. Excited/Demoralized. Fit/Geriatric. 

Conclusion: There are 4 factors that impact the quality of my ride. Let me explain, and then you’ll see how this applies to coaching, and to you! 

  • Terrain. Is it soft or packed? Rock, pebbles, or puddles? A bumpy bridge or a smooth one (depends how the plans are laid, long ways or short)? 
  • Elevation Grade. Obviously going up blows, going down is just silly. 
  • Wind. Woah. The first day I made more progress walking the bike than riding it. Head winds are not fun, tailwinds are glorious. 
  • Prana/Energy. What did I eat and when? Am I hydrated? How much prep did I really do before this challenge? A day, a month? All year? Am I agile and proactive or reactive? 

So. What’s going on for you? Think about your challenges or your desires. How’s your terrain of support?

Is your foundation in place, or do you have to pull from your resources to create a starting point that feels more sustainable?

What else do you need to get in place? Are you going uphill toward your target? That’s fine, as long as the end is in sight and your path is clearly lit, with times to stop, catch a breathe, and enjoy the journey. As you read this, you may realize you’ve met your goal, and you’re coasting downhill with ease. As they say in NZ, good on you. How do you handle the unexpected, both good and bad? They don’t call them the “winds of change” for no reason. Knowing yourself deeply, practicing mindfulness, and logging your gratitudes will keep you steady no matter what comes your way. Most importantly, your energy or life force. The techniques and methodologies to feeling your best are endless. You know yourself best. Why aren’t you practicing?

Embrace your rituals, and put them above all else.

Be selfish and self-nourishing. Make time. Own it! 

From the Rail Trail (Central Otego, New Zealand)


How to Find the Motivation for Life Transformation and True Happiness

Making the changes and taking the path to change your life and seeking personal development is rewarding and life changing, but it isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be confusing, scary and hard. Throughout your journey, you might constantly question if you are taking the right path, if you are following the correct advice and if it is all worth it. When you start to doubt yourself and your journey, the driving factor that keeps you going is motivation. Motivation gives you the desire to continue along your path of transformation. It’s what gets you out of bed, prepares you to focus on your transformation and removes any excuses. You have the power to influence your own levels of motivation. Here are three steps to finding the motivation for life transformation and true happiness.

life transformation1. Take a Moment to Introspect

It’s easy to say that you want to transform your life for the better, but it can be a little bit harder to say exactly why you want to do that. Finding motivation will be much easier when you are fully aware of your intentions and your reasoning behind the transformation.

Ask yourself these questions

– How do I currently view myself, and how do I want to view myself?

– What are my strengths and weaknesses?

– What is my motivation? Do I think these changes will bring love? Do I think they will make me happier? Do I think they will make the people around me happier?

– What am I currently doing in my life that is hurting me or holding me back?

– Am I ready to take big risks or make big changes for the benefit of my transformation?

One of the keys to finding the motivation to transform your life is to dig down and find your true intentions for the change. Remind yourself what you need, not what everyone else needs, to feel happy and fulfilled.

2. Determine What Is in Your Way

When it comes to making changes in your life, it’s easy to point out any number of obstacles that are preventing you from your transformation. The obstacles are usually not insurmountable, but they can be big enough to throw you off of your path to transformation if you allow them to impede your progress.

Consider these impediments to change

– Your own fears of change, uncertainty, failure, and inadequacy.

– A full schedule and feeling like you don’t have enough time.

– Being overwhelmed with how to begin and what to do.

– Wanting everything to be done perfectly.

– Waiting and waiting for the right time to start your journey.

These fears and obstacles are real, but they are not a good enough reason to remain inactive. It all comes down to making the decision to prioritize your transformation and utilizing your motivation to get you past any number of obstacles you will encounter at the start of and throughout your journey.

3. Take Action to Find Motivation

Motivation won’t magically come to you while you sit and do nothing. You must be proactive in finding motivation for your transformation.

Choose a Direction

Decide what type of direction you want to go in your life. If you are at this point, you probably don’t want to remain in the same place mentally or spiritually. The decision is, then, do you want to make immediate and drastic changes, or take a slower path to change? Neither choice is wrong, they just determine the amount of time and effort you put into your transformation.

Have a Goal

Choose one goal upon which to focus. This helps avoid the obstacle of feeling overwhelmed, and it prevents your from draining your energy and motivation.

Get Inspired

Allow yourself to be inspired by others. Your transformation is your own, but it’s likely that other people have gone through a similar journey to yours. Look to their successes as motivation for your own.

Find Support

Get support. Work with an accountability partner, talk to a life coach, or find an online community with whom to interact. Use these connections to help get you through the times you are lacking motivation.

Start Small

Start with one small, positive step. Ask yourself what small action step you can take today to move forward with your transformation. After that, take another small step. An object in motion stays in motion, and once you get started, it’s much easier to keep going.

Make Changes

Determine when you will make changes in your life, and make space for those changes. Set aside time once a day to work on your goals for your transformation. Prioritize your goals and make the change happen.

Pick a Mantra

Make your goal visible. Pick a mantra that’s a few words long to describe your goal, and post it somewhere you will see it every day. Keep your goal at the forefront of your mind to keep your excitement and motivation going.

When you are ready to transform your life, you will need to plenty of motivation to do so. Get a clear picture of what changes you want to make and why, and set yourself up for success by making your goals a priority.

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Thoughts on Love and Life for Valentine’s Day

As a life coach, I take a different approach to love and life than other professionals. When it comes to finding love, you’re probably used to hearing advice telling you to put yourself out there, be present and be yourself. While that advice is valid, I like to take a more holistic approach to love. Love comes in many forms, and for Valentine’s Day, I’d like to encourage you to look at love with a little bit different perspective. Pay attention to and appreciate all of the different types of love in your life. Perhaps most importantly, show yourself some love this holiday, too.

love and lifeShowing Self-Love

We are taught from a very young age in our relationship with our parents that we should be mindful of how our actions make other people feel. Of course, showing kindness to others is important. But sometimes, we tend to push aside our own desires and instincts in favor of tending to someone else first.

Take Care of Yourself

This Valentine’s Day, I urge you to take care of yourself. Make it a point to show yourself some love for the benefit of your happiness and well-being. Once you focus on self-love, you may find that it positively impacts all aspects of your life from your romantic relationships to your professional career. In fact, you may find that the more you focus on what you want, rather than what you think you should do or what you think other people want you to do, you may find that dating becomes easier. You just might feel happier overall. The appreciation you feel for yourself, in the form of self-love, comes from actions you take to support your physical, spiritual, and psychological well-being and growth. Here are some steps you can take to show yourself some love:

– Become more aware of your thoughts and feelings, and act on this knowledge.
– Take good care of your basic needs, and practice healthy habits like exercising, eating well and sleeping well.
– Learn how to say, “no,” in your personal and professional lives.
– Don’t be too hard on yourself when you make mistakes.

Love Comes in All Forms

On Valentine’s Day, the focus is often put on romantic love. However, it’s important to remember that your life is filled with all different types of love, and each type deserves to be celebrated. Even if you go into Valentine’s Day single, and you’re feeling unhappy about that, take stock of all of the love in your life.

Consider All the Love You Can Have

The love you can have in your life may include:

– Love for yourself
– Love for and from your pets
– Love for your family
– Love for your friends
– Love of your job, home, hobbies, etc.

Claim Valentine’s Day as a day to celebrate all forms of love, not just romantic love.

Truths About Love

Love and relationships are often romanticized on Valentine’s Day, but in everyday life, love isn’t always about roses and chocolates.

Get the Facts

Here are some hard truths about love and relationships:

– Yes, love takes work. However, love shouldn’t fill you with self-loathing, grief, depression, or confusion.
– Partners need to love each other, but they also need to love themselves. A lack of self-love can ruin a relationship.
– On the flip side, other people can make you happy, and you should let them. They can also inspire you, ignite you and make you feel fulfilled.
– Always keep hope. There is a plentiful amount of love and partnership opportunities waiting for you out there.
– Yes, there is such a thing of loving someone but not being in love. You have to decide if that is enough.
– There can be more than one soul mate out there for you. The loss of one doesn’t mean you will never have a great love relationship again.

Navigating the Dating World

If you are just starting to see someone, or if you’re ready to jump back into the dating pool this Valentine’s Day, some helpful advice can make a difference.

What to Keep in Mind

– If your date isn’t going too well, instead of checking out, try learning something from the other person. Even if the chemistry isn’t there to start, you may still make a great connection.
– Remember that you are amazing on your own and as who you already are. If you start to feel like you’re losing yourself in a relationship, it’s time to re-evaluate the situation.
– Just like you should remain true to yourself, you need to accept your date as he or she is, as well. Don’t think that the other person will magically change as things progress, and don’t try to force any changes.
– Are things starting to get serious? Introduce your date to your friends. Your friends can give you an honest opinion, and they will still be there for you if things don’t work out in your dating life.

Show yourself some love, remain true to yourself, and focus on all of the love in your life to enjoy this Valentine’s Day to the fullest.

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How Do You Plan to Achieve Your Goals in 2017?

While many people are busy making New Year’s resolutions, the time leading up to the new year can be a great period to assess your ultimate goals. Spending a little bit of each day developing a new routine can lead to a happier, more fulfilling life, containing purpose, promise, peace, and prosperity. How do you plan to achieve your goals in 2017? Incorporating these facets into your everyday practice and lifestyle are the steps you need to take to start realizing your dreams in 2017.

how do you plan to achieve your goalsDefine Your Goals

Looking at your goals can be a challenging exercise since many individuals are wrapped up in their family’s needs, their employer’s demands and pressures that come with life. Separating what is being done for the well-being of others and the true desires of your own heart might not come easily. As many people have noted, you may not reach the goals you never set.

Personally Successful and Focused on the Future

Your goals should be personally successful and valuable. One of the best ways to decide where you want to end up is to put yourself in the future. Think about what your life will look like, about the changes and differences you hope to be living, and the steps and actions you’ve taken to get to that point. Look at the challenges you’ve overcome and think of the pride, frustration, accomplishments and sadness that it took the reach that point. Then, write yourself a letter. Your future self should pour all of these feelings and steps into a letter to your present self. As you write, your ultimate goals will begin to take shape and you’ll feel how they fit in your life. You can then mold and form them into the true outcomes you hope to see in the future.

Visualize Your End Result

Visualizing your end result of your long-term goals helps you to see the increase that comes from picturing what you want and understanding what you’ve got.

Definitive Goals in Writing

Most professionals agree that individuals will get more of what they focus on when it comes to wealth, knowledge, better jobs or more success. Once you define your goals, write them down. Create a goal board and use images and phrases that keep you centered on your goals. Stop using uncertain language and don’t just think your plans, say them out loud. As you coach yourself through your goals, you begin to see and believe them more clearly. Visualization techniques strengthen your brain by working and stretching your thought process while shifting it into a positive frame of mind.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a fantastic way to set and reach your goals. The practice involves being mentally aware, active and present in each part of your life. Mindfulness helps you to accept and be open to every moment’s experiences. The practice and art of mindfulness usually lead to feeling more independence and less stress.

Find a Greater Purpose

This, in turn, allows you to concentrate on your separate tasks, leading not only to greater productivity but a more well-rounded understanding of each task. Mindfulness can also help you to find a greater purpose for your life. This purpose grounds you and helps you feel a greater sense of control over your destiny. When your long-term goals become your calling, they help to center you and give you a stable point of reference when your life becomes overwhelming.

Learn to Manage Your Time

Segmenting is one of the best ways to help you overcome the two biggest killers of productivity: distractions and interruptions. Once you’ve defined your goals, it’s important to make a daily action plan that helps you build up to reaching your ultimate goals. Since activity builds momentum, which cycles back to more activity, start by ranking the most important daily goals you want to complete. Turn off your e-mails and cell phone, keep your basic needs, like water or coffee, within reach, and create an environment that leads to productivity.

Check Off Goals and Take a Short Break

Spend the next 20 to 25 minutes immersed in your work and check off your goals as you tackle them. After a five minute break, check your phone and e-mail, and start over again. You’ll find that you get more accomplished in less time.

Work With a Dedicated Life Coach

A dedicated life coach is someone who not only has done what you desire to do but often has earned certifications. Mine come from New York University and Wainwright International, and I’m also certified in Coaching the Unconscious Mind.

What a Life Coach Can Do

A dedicated life coach will help you identify what you truly want out of life, and focus your appointment times on helping you to improve and shape your life. A dedicated life coach will be your biggest cheerleader, but also someone willing to give you constructive criticism to weed out the goals and actions that you might only think you want. Ultimately, this can help you achieve your goals in 2017 and beyond.

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What is Delegation and Why Is It Important in Life and Business?

Running your own business is more than your passion, it is a major part of your life and who you are. When you are working on something that you are passionate about, your mind is constantly whirring around the inner workings and details of your business. Regardless of your business focus and area of expertise, it seems for every task that you get done, three or four more grow in its place. Discover more about delegation and its importance in life and business.

delegationDelegation is Essential

One of the reasons why delegating and outsourcing have become so popular is because we realize that we just can’t do this all by ourselves. We need intelligent, hard-working, motivated, reliable support and help so that we can continue to grow our businesses, duplicate our efforts, and most importantly to give ourselves some time to decompress.

Let Go and Get Productive

Let’s walk through some ways to show how you can start to let go of responsibilities, stress, and worries in your business. Discover how you can start delegating tasks and projects to free up your time. Learn ways to improve your quality of life and increase your productivity by selectively working less.

Why Perfection is the Enemy of Good Enough

Before we get into anything else, you have to realize that nothing in life is going to be perfect. Whether it be in your personal life or your business, there is always going to be something imperfect, and there will always be room for improvement. If you are a serious type A personality or you are obsessive about achieving perfection in your personal life or your business, it’s time to start accepting that there are very few things in life that turn out perfectly.

Edit It Later

Have you heard the saying “ready, fire, aim?” You can spend all of the time in the world prepping, planning and agonizing over details and how to improve the process or the product. Sometimes, you just have to try something to know if it is going to work, and then adjust as you go. Think of your job or personal life as a novel or a large term paper. It is never going to be perfect, so sometimes you just have to get all of your thoughts and outline on the page first, and then you can go back, edit and adjust things later.

How to Let Go of Anything

The first place that we need to start when delegating is the practice of letting go. As a responsible and hardworking person, letting go of everything from current and future tasks to past mistakes and lessons learned can seem impossible, but it’s something that we need to work on. Letting go of tasks and responsibilities in your life or your business may be one of the most difficult things that you do because you love your business and want everything to go your way according to your plan. However, delegating is one of the best things that you will do for your business and your mental health.

The Day Must End

Accept that every work day that you go into is finite, and there is no possible way you can get everything done. There is one of you and just 24 hours in a day. When you walk away from the office or shut your laptop at the end of the day, don’t look at everything that you weren’t able to get done. Focus on all that you accomplished that day and then plan accordingly for tomorrow.

Improving Business Profits with Delegation

Sure, at the end of the day you can probably do anything in your business two to three times as good as any of the people who work for you. However, you have to start delegating before you burn out completely. You don’t have to start with great processes, projects or heavy responsibilities. Most of the time it is best to start relying on your team in baby steps.

Keep It Simple

Start delegating a few simple tasks a week that you find to be time-consuming. You will find that as you trust more in your team, managers or employees, they will gladly rise to the occasion. Make sure that you let them know how much you appreciate what they are doing and how much they are helping you. Delegating tasks and the workload will give you more time to work on growing your business instead of wasting time on minutiae or simple tasks that someone else could do.

Freeing up Time with Delegation and Improving Quality of Life

One of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself when letting go and delegating work is improving your quality of life outside of work. Once you begin delegating work tasks and responsibilities to qualified, hardworking members of your team, that frees up more of your time so that you can work on your business instead of in your business.

Take Care of Yourself

What is equally as important is taking more downtime so that you can take better care of your mental and emotional health. As entrepreneurs, we tend to convince ourselves that our work output is unlimited and that we can be “on” all of the time without giving ourselves an ounce of downtime or rest. Here’s a big dose of reality: you need downtime, hobbies, and a social life. If you aren’t giving yourself time to relax and decompress, your work efficiency and effectiveness quickly diminishes.

You can’t do this on your own. We weren’t designed to be on high output work mode all the time. In the best interest of your business, time and mental health, start taking baby steps toward delegating more responsibilities and tasks to your team and watch your business and personal life flourish. Working with a dedicated life coach can help you redefine your goals, learn how to delegate responsibilities, and live a more balanced life.

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Find Your Zen: Confidence-Boosting Activities That Build Self-Esteem

Two things that successful people have in common are that they have great self-confidence and high self-esteem. It’s not a leap to see why knowing you are comfortable in your zone and knowing your worth can equate to doing well in life. You may notice that your self-confidence is low and your self-esteem is lagging. When that happens, it’s time to find your zen through confidence-boosting activities that can help build self-esteem.

confidence boosting activitiesFocus on the Positive

You may find that you aren’t focusing on the positive in your life but the negative aspects instead. Reliving the bad or painful memories can bring down your self-confidence and self-esteem.

A Change in Attitude

Start putting your energy towards being positive. Look at your actions in a positive light. Examine the positive aspects of your situation and circumstances. Think of yourself in a positive way. A change in attitude can change your life.

Focus on Actions

Find your place of zen by focusing on your actions. Create lists and goals that you aim to achieve. It can feel very satisfying to check off the last item on a to-do list at the end of the day or reach a goal that you set.

Set Realistic Goals

Every little thing that you do right increases your self-confidence and your self-esteem. Just remember that you need to set goals and to-do list items that are reasonable. Over-reaching with unattainable goals and unrealistic items on a to-do list can damage your view of yourself.

Focus on Success

As with the negatives in life, it’s easy to focus on failures that happened in your life, but it’s more beneficial to stay focused on success.

Learn From Failures and Move Forward

Evaluate your failures to learn from them, and then move on to the next thing by moving your thoughts to future successes. Remember, nothing is a failure if you learn from the situation. Thinking about your successes rather than the failures helps you focus you on what to do next without dragging yourself down by that nagging feeling of what went wrong in the past.

Focus on Preparation

Preparation may not seem like something that helps you improve your self-confidence and self-esteem, but it can go a long way.

Take the Time

The phrase “fake it ‘til you make it” can come from preparation. Taking the time to prepare in advance means that you won’t be struggling at the last minute to try to memorize the figures you need for your upcoming meeting or that test you’re taking. People that are self-confident with good self-esteem take the time to prepare so that they can use this time to stall any jitters that they may have about what they’re about to do.

Focus on Relaxation

Making time for relaxation and cutting down on stress is good for a person’s state of being. It’s hard to be zen with better self-confidence and self-esteem if you’re feeling overly stressed.

Take Care of Yourself

Take care of yourself in mind and body. That will help you to grow in these personality traits that you look to nurture.

Focus on Appearance

Your appearance is another item on this list at which you may be shaking your head. However, maintaining a clean appearance physically, at home and the workplace, can make you feel better.

Feel Good

Looking good can help you feel good. The better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to have positive thoughts. That positive feeling leads to focusing on the successes that you can achieve. Some days it can be nice to sit around in your comfortable clothes without making an effort, but you should take the time with your appearance whether you’re on your way to work or at home.

Focus on Stepping Away

Stepping away can be hard to do. You may feel as though you’re in this alone, and need to make this life improvement your sole focus. It can be overwhelming.

Change is Good

This may seem like a lot to change. You may be in this trap where you’ve gotten used to focusing on the wrong things or winging it when you should be better prepared. It’s hard to get away from this mindset, and that’s okay. Take this process one step at a time. If you find that you’re really struggling, step away with the help of a life coach. Sometimes you may be too close to the situation, so an impartial party that’s rooting for you can be exactly what you need to keep you accountable while cheering for your successes.

There are some people who feel that self-confidence and self-esteem come naturally while others will always struggle, but that’s not necessarily true. High self-confidence and great self-esteem can be worked on until they become second-nature. The difficulty is that everyone suffers a setback here and there. Finding your zen means that, although you may slip from time to time, you’re able to move on with your day and repair the damage to your zen.

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Learn How to Overcome Obstacles and Live Your Dream

As children, our dreams seemed endless and full of possibility. In our mental escape to the future, nothing hindered what we wanted to be when we grew up or even what we hoped to accomplish in the next week. Dreams and reality showed potential to merge in delightful ways. But the journey to adulthood comes with challenges and realities we are blissfully unaware of during childhood. While we tend to bemoan these obstacles, they serve many purposes. The very presence of trials and struggles can strengthen us. Learn how to overcome obstacles and live your dream.

to overcome obstaclesToday is the Time

If we allow these hindrances to loom larger than life, our dreams go unrealized. Indeed, obstacles possess the ability to wear us down, force us back or stop us in our tracks. There is no reason to look back with regret over that which has not happened. Today is the time to recognize obstacles for what they are, let them do their work within you and overcome them to live your dreams.

Know What You Are Facing

Understanding the basic types of obstacles you face helps you to identify the ones that set you back or sit you down. Hindrances come at you from varying fronts.


These types of obstacles may develop over time, such as personal insecurities or a sense of failure. They may also result from choices such as debt or lack of education. Fortunately, these hindrances rest in your control.


Unlike personal issues, circumstantial obstacles often lay outside of your control. For instance, the death of a loved one or a flood encompassing your home, or even physical limitations represent these external stresses. Since these events come unexpectedly, the ability to plan for or control them gives way to navigating your response to them.


As social beings, relationships draw and fill us. Unfortunately, issues also arise. Some relational problems prove as benign as a miscommunication, while others may involve full-on attacks against you. While it is not possible to control another person’s behavior, interactions that influence your life within these relationships may evoke change.

Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

Self-awareness remains a beneficial first step to overcoming obstacles. In fact, according to many researchers, emotional awareness, or knowing ourselves, proves to be a greater predictor of success than IQ.

Questions and Answers

Important questions to consider in regard to the obstacles you identify:

— How long has this obstacle confronted me?

— Is this a first-time occurrence or is it habitual?

— How does this hindrance show up in my life?

— What is my typical response when faced with this obstacle?

— How can this roadblock strengthen me?

Answering these types of questions help you to label the challenges you need to face. Then you can try to override any patterned responses that spin you off course.

Gain Perspective

As you conduct your personal assessment, remember to think outside the box. In other words, a different view of your situation and responses proves useful as you attempt to change your perspective. A trusted friend, a mentor, a good read and a walk in nature all offer an opportunity to get outside your own head. Working with a life coach also takes a significant, intentional step towards victory over your obstacles.

A Simple Change

A simple change in scenery often works to shift your perspective. Input from others reveals your responses to obstacles hidden from your mind. An outside source provides new paths to your dream that the obstacle may be blocking from your view. With courage and humility, ask others for feedback and input.

Watch Where You Are Going

In the race, a runner knows the value of keeping his or her eyes forward and focused on where he or she is going. Waving at those on the sidelines, glancing back at an opponent or watching the rhythm of your feet on the pavement all are detrimental to achieving victory.

Focus On Your Dream

The same holds true in overcoming obstacles. The goal, your dream, needs to be the focus. Distractions within your own thoughts, through your interactions, with others or from external circumstances derail your efforts.

Guard Your Time

Time management skills keep you moving toward your stated goal. In fact, interruptions are one of the two biggest productivity killers. (The other being distractions, see above!) Find a technique that helps you eliminate these two ways to wasting time and move that obstacle quicker to advance your efforts on the way to fulfilling your dreams.

Celebrate You

Be reminded that each of us possesses unique characteristics, personalities, and talents. The combination of these features creates a “you” like no other. As you pursue your dream, this truth becomes a needed focus and motivator. Celebrate your creativity anew as you get creative to solve problems, learn from your unique obstacles and grow in strength to overcome any negative pull on your life and dreams.

Understanding which obstacles trip you up and your responses to them give you the information needed to take control of your circumstances, overcome your obstacles and realize your dream. Whether your dream began with the play of childhood or developed through the experiences of adulthood, the truth is that merging your mindset with reality is more than possible.

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Modern Day Fear: Hunting & Gathering

I like working with people who have just a little touch of neurosis. Just a sliver. Coaches aren’t therapists, yet the majority of people on the planet in general, and New York City in particular, have some degree of free-floating fear and anxiety.  These qualities make people human and vulnerable and real and open. That works for me.

As we get older, the resting mind tends to wander to the future and our ability to sustain the life we’ve become accustom to. For people like me, who have left their corporate job, or sold their small business as a means to a calmer way of life, we’ve also given up financial stability, or the illusion of it. If you listened to the Republican debate, you may even fear that by the time we get there, social security will have vanished. This thought in itself has a number of my clients seriously sleepless. And these people have money in the bank and money rolling in. Its just fear.

Today as I was walking to the dog park, I saw a man crossing Columbus Avenue with a huge see-through bag stuffed with plastic bottles. At first I thought he was dressed for Halloween, but as he approached the corner I saw him reaching into the recycling barrel for more bottles. I was finishing up a seltzer and offered him my bottle as we crossed the street together. His eyes were bright, he had few teeth, and he was making a bee-line for the next bin. I had a magazine that I was ready to toss. “Can you use any paper”? I asked him. Nope, he was all about plastic. His face was kind and showed pure determination. As we spoke a bit more he told me he could get about 8 bucks when he turned in the bottles. “That’s pretty good, enough for a decent meal!” I chimed optimistically.  He beamed with what I have to call pride. It sounds cliche but that’s what it was. As we parted, I thought about what it must feel like to dig into garbage cans, maintain dignity, figure out where to go next when the well ran dry. I noticed how, as my mind wrapped itself around the idea of living that life, surviving, my initial aversion softened. I’d still have everything I have now, at least on the inside.  I knew I could do it if I had to.

Our fears can be our friend, in that they can drive us to big huge change, by creating strategy, perhaps working with our mindset, our skill set, or how we spend our energy. Or, we can sit with the anxiety and watch it multiply. It takes guts to dig deep, whether it be digging through a trash can, or into defining what we really really want and being committed to getting there. Its messy, but it always seems to work out just fine.

Neurosis: a relatively mild mental illness that involves symptoms of stress (depression, anxiety, obsessive behavior, hypochondria) but not a radical loss of touch with reality.

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Best time management technique ever.

Two of the biggest productivity killers are distractions and interruptions. If you can eliminate these two you WILL be more productive. This time management technique is so simple, and the feedback I’m getting back from my clients is overwhelmingly positive! A time management technique so simple that even top execs are embarrassed they couldn’t have figured out on their own!
The main idea behind what I call the Segmenting Technique is “time-boxing”. The basic premise is to create a fortress around your attention for a small amount of time and mentally recharge after each interval of intense focus.  By completing small chunks of work you will build momentum so that you’ll feel more productive, which in itself leads to getting more work done. And, you’ll have nice little breaks in between each time-box. 
I suggest intervals of 20-25 minutes, with 5 minute breaks in between.
Step 1: Write out a list of tasks and rank them in priority. You’ll be tackling the most important tasks first.
Step 2: Set up your environment. This means, creating a place where you feel a work groove. If you work best to music, go for it, but something acoustic only, without words, is best. Cell phone on airplane and mail server, OFF. Have your water or coffee nearby. Set the timer on your cell and go for it.
Step 3: If you didn’t complete your action, just move it into the next time box. If you did complete your action early, just review your work and absorb it. Stay until your time-box is complete. Don’t work beyond the end of your time box.
Step 4: Take a break, stand up, move around, return your communications, do a little dance, and get back to it. Give it a try and let me know how it goes!
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